Relationship goals. We all have them. But while you might think they’re all positive, this isn’t necessarily the case.
In this article, we’re going to cover every goal, or stage, that a relationship has to go through in order to be successful.
Some of these you might have already experienced in previous relationships, and some you may have not yet encountered.
Here are 15 different relationship goals that you will encounter during your romantic relationships.
This is the stage of any new relationship that everyone enjoys and looks forward to – it’s the butterflies and goose pimples stage.
If your heart skips a beat when the phone rings and you change three times before your date, you’ve achieved this goal
It’s fun and exciting and full of possibility.
While infatuation is a fun stage, it doesn’t last long. In fact, many couples soon return to their routines and everyday life sets in pretty quickly.
Regardless of how long you have been together when this stage hits, you will find things to pick fights about, new annoyances will pop up, and suddenly, you find yourself daydreaming about slapping your partner if they don’t stop chewing so loudly!
Turning against your partner is one of the first things you might do, intentionally or not, when the relationship begins to sour.
Maybe something that was once cute and charming is now annoying and repetitive, and instead of responding with a hug, you might offer up a sassy comment.
But even these small, “harmless” comments aren’t as harmless as you might think. They breed toxicity, and create long-term pain. Stop the pain—be kind.
While not people will want to achieve the goal of disturbing each other, the real merit in achieving the goal is getting past all of this without breaking up and staying kind to each other.
Every couple goes through some form of change in the life of their relationship. Sometimes, only one partner changes or experiences a change.
Sometimes one partner expects the other person to change and it is causing issues in the relationship.
This is also a delicate stage of the relationship because each partner will be weighing their options when it comes to how much change they can take on and are willing to commit to.
4) Understanding – and no lies
A healthy relationship needs to be simple, and the first step to keeping it simple is by making sure you aren’t juggling two or three different stories or versions of reality with your partner.
Whether you’re lying about something as big as an affair or something as small as what you had for breakfast, you need to ask yourself; why am I lying?
If you’ve hurt your partner in a way that would cause the relationship to break, then would a lie truly help? Every lie gets found out, one way or another..
Remember, through this understanding honest stage, a lot of compromise comes up during as couples try to navigate what they other wants and needs in order to stay together for the long run. But it’s a goal well worth achieving
It’s a project worth investing in for the two of you.
5) Desire Each Other In Your Minds
You can’t love each other if you can’t respect each other, and respect begins by acknowledging your partner’s intellectual capacity.
Simply put, after the excitement has gone, you need a way to fill the gaps in the day. You need to interest each other with new ideas, new concepts; books, movies, culture, art.
Your conversations don’t have to be academic, but they should be more than just “How are you?”, every single evening.
6) …And Your Bodies
No matter how intelligent or cultured you might be, you can’t get away from the fact that at your core, you’re still a person with natural sexual instincts.
And if your partner isn’t satisfying that side of you, a bubble of disappointment will slowly grow inside of you. Eventually, that bubble will fuel arguments, disagreements, and general resentment.
If you’re still sexually attracted to each other after a signifcant amount of time, that’s a great sign
7) You Continue to Have Fun Together
Serious conversations, intellectual discourse, emotional connections, and great sex. What more could a relationship need? One thing—fun!
You’re not always going to be in the mood to be romantic or sexual or emotional. Sometimes you’re just going to want someone to be with you to have some fun.
We all have that inner child, and keeping that child happy is a large part of keeping yourself happy.
So make sure that you know how to have fun with your partner—being silly, playing games, telling jokes, and simply enjoying each other’s presence.
Discovery stages in relationships are about give and take. It’s about finding out what your life will be like as you continue to be in this relationship.
You may find that your needs and wants have changed over the years, but because you are both open to making the relationship work, that is okay.
If you achieve this goal, you’ll learn more about each other than you ever dreamed of.
9) Your Lives Don’t Revolve Around Each Other
This is quite a common mistake amongst young relationships, and is one of the reasons why so many relationships end up not working out.
You and your partner become too obsessed with each other during that honeymoon phase, so much so that your lives become completely intertwined.
But it’s essential that you retain your sense of self and individuality. It might seem right during the honeymoon phase, but being involved in every part of your partner’s life is unsustainable, and will drive both of you mad.
Take it easy, and don’t leave behind the sides that make you, you.
10) But Your Relationship Is Still Your Top Priority
With that said, don’t forget that your relationship still needs to be one of your top priorities. Some couples end up drifting apart too far or for too long after the honeymoon phase, and this causes them to lose touch.
Don’t stop doing the things that make both of you happy, and don’t ever forget what made you fall in love to begin with.
Keep the fire going; don’t stop adding fuel to it or it might just go out.